As important as the wedding itself, horoscope matching is considered to be one of the most important aspects of a Tamil Matrimony. The solemn ceremony begins with matching the stars which define the matrimonial compatibility between the bride and the groom. This method of matching is believed to have been invented by sages centuries ago and is still practiced by Tamilians.
A Tamil Matrimony is marked by the bride bearing five important things – the mangal sutra , the kumkum , bangles, nose rings and toe rings. The Mangal sutra is the most important aspect in any Tamil Matrimony. The Mangal Sutra is considered to be the guardian of the wearer – thus protecting the bride from evil spirits and ensuring happiness and long-living. So let’s take a look at what this petite but elusive golden ornament stands for in a Tamil Matrimony.
Firstly , Mangal means something auspicious and sutra means thread. Typically in a Tamil Matrimony , the thaali is suspended in a thread smeared with turmeric paste. The thread marks the many strands of love, friendship and all other emotions that bind a relationship together. The mangal sutra is tied by the groom around the bride’s dainty neck. This tying of the knot marks the most crucial moment of a Tamil Matrimony – flashes light up the air , everyone shed their blessings and prayers on the bride and the groom and this golden ornament ties the entire ceremony together.
Tamil Sri Lankan wedding includes many traditions that differ from community to community. Still basic details are the same. One of them is the time of year when the wedding is organized. According to Tamil calendar weddings are not organized in the months. We take it from our pangangam.
In case that the marriage is arranged parents of potential bride and groom meet to exchange horoscopes. The horoscope is usually analyzed by the family priest.
The next step includes writing of the marriage agreement. After that there is a meeting in the groom’s house when priests from both sides exchange marriage agreement. The agreement is put on a plate. On the plate there are also bananas, coconuts and betel leaf.